Chris entered California's foster care system at three months old, and remained in the system until he aged out at 18. "I jumped around a lot," he recalls of his time in foster care, living in 8 different placements until he joined his last foster family at age 9. He remained with this family until he turned 18. Then, Chris recalls, "two weeks before my high school graduation, they told me I had to leave. I couldn't believe it, I asked them, 'Are you serious?' And they were."

The emotional pain Chris experienced was overwhelming. "I remember crying and packing a week's worth of clothing. And then I left." For the remaining weeks of high school, Chris went to live with his older sister in Los Angeles, with whom he had been able to sustain some contact over the years, despite their placement in separate foster homes.

In the absence of a permanent family, but longing for the connections, guidance and support that everyone needs, Chris relies on friends, their parents and supportive adults. "They have become my family." The things that other young people with families take for granted are harder when you are on your own. "I had to do a lot of research on the internet to figure out how to do my taxes," he recalls. "And when I get sick, I don't have anyone to ask for advice - I just have to go on WebMd."

"To youth who have been in foster care and have not experienced what it means to have a family, the notion of what a family is and what it means is hard to understand. How can you fully understand it and embrace it when you know that they might kick you out or cause the emotional damage I experienced?"

To Chris, the reason why the system needs reform and why youth need family and supportive adults to rely on is simple. "I and many other young people were placed in foster care by no fault of our own. But we want to progress and become individuals who not only have rewarding lives but are productive members of society. We deserve the best opportunity in order to do this."

Currently a college sophomore, Chris juggles a busy schedule. He attends Cal State Fullerton full time (where he is majoring in political science and carries a triple minor), works part-time, is in ROTC and interns with FosterClub. When he graduates from college, he will be a fully commissioned officer in the Army. Learn more about Chris

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People like this give foster parents a bad name. Why would you take care of a child nine years and then toss them to the street? I am glad that he was smart enough to want to be productive and go to college. I pray that he gets married soon and gets to have a real stable family.

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To anonymous who wrote on

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To anonymous who wrote on March 30th; you can find cheap furniture on craigslist.com - some people give it for free.
Also look for Thrift Stores in your location.
Be safe and avoid bad companies. No one will hurt you :)
Make a profile on foster club so people can reply to you faster and write on the message board if you need more advice.

The man which the pain didn't educate will never stop being a child - Niccolo Tommaseo

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THATS SO SAD HOW THEY TOLD

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THATS SO SAD HOW THEY TOLD YOU THAT YOU HAD TO LEAVE AND I WOULD OF SAID CAN I AT LEAST FINISH SCHOOL FIRST I WOULD RATHER GRADUATED BEFORE I LEAVE!!!

too cool 4 you jk <3(:!lol

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I miss u friend I hope that

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I miss u friend I hope that u are closer and closer to completing ur goals n ur dreams stay high .. I just know u were meant for greatness

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Typically, you are eligible

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Typically, you are eligible for up to $5,000 in college scholarships if:
1. You are 18, 19 or 20 years old.
2. You are in foster care or you were in foster care as a teenager and you are a US citizen or qualified non-citizen
3. You aged out of the foster care system at age 18 or were adopted from foster care with adoption finalization after your 16th birthday.
For more details, check with your independent living coordinator. If you don't have one, check with your state's ETV specialist. Texas' is Caroline Bogues.
caroline.bogues@dfps.state.tx.us
Phone: 5124384576

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i thought that as foster

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i thought that as foster kids we had the opportunity to age out and they pay for college???....

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Why do people have to leave

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Why do people have to leave is it the money or what..I know that we all need help but what about the kids...Is it their fault. This system needs to change. I'm sorry you had to be treated like an animal and left in the dust because you turned 18 does it have to be that way. Only God knows the answer. I hope that things turn out for you.

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hey want can i do if i need

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hey want can i do if i need help with my situation i i'm 18 and i found a place to stay and i need help with getting help with getting furniture and stuff and i don't have a car or any thing i do have a job but i don't get my check until the 10th of every month what should i do if i can't seem to trust my IL person and i don't want to have anyone to try to hurt me what should i do.....

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