At FosterClub, we receive a lot of questions from young people about foster care. We've compiled some of them here. Browse our subject headings below, or use our search engine (above, and to the right) to find the answers you're looking for. There are several great questions that have been posted on this page. Feel free to ask them in the comment section below. However, if you're looking for the opinion of FosterClub's members, please consider posting the question on our message board. Got a question not answered below? Feel free to Ask FosterClub or ask the Child Welfare Information Gateway Wondering where all this information came from? All the info below available as a book called Foster Care 411 learn more about Foster Care 411...

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Foster children aging out of system.

Tandalyn carter's picture

I was directed to this website to find foster children/young adults who are aging out of the system. I am not a foster parent at this time. I was considering becoming one but haven't decided if it is more helpful to become one or to help someone who has aged out. I live in East Texas . How do you find out if there is a teen in your area who needs your help?

how do you know if you have

Anonymous's picture

how do you know if you have been accepted into the foster-club allstars?

Different states have

skater's picture

Different states have different criteria for emancipation. In general, a minor would have to show that he/she can support him/herself financially; live independently apart from parents (or have made plans for housing in the future); either be in school or already have a diploma; and be able to demonstrate that he/she can make adult decisions. Depending on the state you live in, there may or may not be other criteria, as well. You can petition the court for emancipation and have your case heard before a judge.
If you are seriously considering emancipation, please make sure you've really thought it through. There are advantages to being emancipated, but there are downsides to consider, as well.
You may want to post your question on the youth message board so you can get more feedback.
Take care!
-Skater

How does one get emancipated

Anonymous's picture

How does one get emancipated in foster care?

my friend is in foster care

Anonymous's picture

my friend is in foster care and we keep in touch. we were going to take her but the mom has prblems, we took the homestudy course so is it possible for her to spend the night for my birthday?

we have been bless with a

Anonymous's picture

we have been bless with a loving baby girl who has become i world .and we would not change nothing about her

If you dont get along with

Anonymous's picture

If you dont get along with them talk to your case worker and see what they can do about it.

I went to foster care for 1

Anonymous's picture

I went to foster care for 1 week i didnt like being split apart from my family but after a week i moved in with my grandparents and my mom checked into rehab and we still get weekly visits

NO mater what others may say

Anonymous's picture

NO mater what others may say WE matter. We are people just like everyone else. The only difference is the hands WE may have been dealt. But message to the wise, WE don't have to let who and where WE were define who WE are and where WE will be.

brother says need money for

Anonymous's picture

brother says need money for colege

What is fostercare really

Anonymous's picture

What is fostercare really like?

Yes! I'm enjoying the new

Christina S's picture

Yes! I'm enjoying the new website.
Thankx
Christina S

my understanding is that

FC Steve's picture

my understanding is that indepent living is an optional program. I would think that the better question may be does the youth want to join an IL program.

Do i have to have a kid to

Anonymous's picture

Do i have to have a kid to go into independent living?

Question for teens... My

Anonymous's picture

Question for teens... My spouse and I (together for 19 years & both female) would like to adopt a teen. We live in the country and both work from 9am to 6pm. We are home by 6:45pm. We feel someone 16 to 17 years old would be a perfect fit due to our work schedule. We are not the "traditional family", but we would love to be parents. We are wondering if any young person would choose this type of forever family... We know we have hearts full of love to give, but would anyone actually want to be our child? We figure who better to ask for advise than the teens on this message board... please share you thoughts with us! Thank you :)

To the ogirl71; technically

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To the ogirl71; technically it was statutory rape, because you were a minor. But I do not believe she could force you to take a pregnancy test.
Did you have the baby? Because there are shelters that help young homeless moms. If you did not or gave the baby up to adoption, have you checked online for free psychologists? I found online that depending of the county you are in, there are Christian churches that have free counseling.
As for housing, you should go to homeless shelters. Are you still with your boyfriend? Can he help in any way?

have a qustion i am 19 years

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have a qustion i am 19 years old i will be 20 in september when i lef foster care I was 17 my boyfriend was 24 my case worker gave me the choice to signe off my rights to my independent living or do a preg test. she said if it came back positive then he would go to prision for rape! i got preg when i was 16. was she aloud to do this? Now i am homeless and cant get help from the state at all I cant hold a job due to disabilitys. i cant get my SSI cuz i have to see a pyhchologest and DHS took my insurance away so i cant aford the co pay :( i have been searching and searching for help.... i also had to drop out of college cuz i had no where to call home and no address to give them... i need help... what should i do?

Hey guys.Just wanted to let

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Hey guys.Just wanted to let you guys no that you can email me anytime at [per safety policy, e-mail removed. thanks - FC Staff] i am wanting to make new friends and start a comment jourl with all our comments that you guys send to me or email me.
thanks,

*ashley Brooke cummings

Hi Ashley, Welcome to

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Hi Ashley, Welcome to FosterClub! Due to safety reasons, we don't have any friending or anything like that, but the message board is these best way to talk to other folks. There are 5 clubs on the site. There's list on the left of this page. On the top right of each page is a join link. That way you'll get an automatic e-mail whenever new content is added on that club. Does that make sense?

hey i was woundering how you

ashley brooke cummings's picture

hey i was woundering how you can sigh up for clubs on here and can you chat with other kids and make new friends.
*ashley Brooke cummings*

i love what i do this is one

diamon_holmes2's picture

i love what i do
this is one of my faviorite things to do

Hi all just trying to get

Anonymous's picture

Hi all just trying to get some feed back on an idea for all of you young adults who enjoy holidays and adventure ....I am in the UK and would love to find out if there.... were places all over the world that was setup for like minded foster children and foster parents to vist on holidays or to have the opption to chill with other children from other parts of the world would this go down well if this could be done.... Thanks in advance for any feed back ...Tony Duval in the UK

BOOGIEa49er I am writing my

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BOOGIEa49er
I am writing my life story foster care from 2yrs through 17yrs I really want all records from start of foster care to the end of it I really have not go close to anything about my childhood placements I am not understanding what to do where is the site mass storage how long are records kept I really am lost need a guide o follow

You could be placed

Anonymous's picture

You could be placed somewhere else where you may not like it or the foster parent may be even harder to get along with.

Im Oscar and Hi:/ I'm

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Im Oscar and Hi:/ I'm looking for my foster sister Britney. Hey Britney, I missed you a lot and it's been years since I left that house we lived in South City. Lmao Remember, how we used to put my tv between our rooms in the hallway on the floor and watched movies everyday?, we tried ways to not to break the lady's rule,? hahaha:0) the rule that im not allowed in your room and you're not allowed in mine, da da da,,,lmao and also we used to sneak downstairs, climbed down from our windows, or on the roof, you used to just stare those stars, and I used to fall asleep, after she goes to bed LMAO hahaha.? Wow I haven't seen you in years, you should be 20 now, guess mine? Im 22 now lol. If there is a luck if we ever meet again, I have lots to talk and share with you:( I am very sorry that I decided to leave, I was placed in a group home in SF and it took me months to be comfortable, it was alright, the only thing kept me going was my school that it was close from the house. You already know I wanted to graduate from it and she would've transferred my school If I stayed.! I left foster care and that group home on my 18th bday, I was so happy:). Anyway, I tried to contact you couple of months after I transferred to that group home but all I received was that you were also placed in an another home. They didn't give me any details on where or when!. Do you remember Milayka our socialworker? I sent a mail to her but I received a letter back from her colleague saying "she doesn't work there anymore". I really do hope you are a member on this site and, or if anyone reading this might know her, please pass it cuz she might be looking for me too!. I hope you see this, I miss you, and as a brother ill be always on ur side no matter what!

Signature:>>>;:::/..(I am alone against the world and trying my best to fit in, will I be missed if I die?)

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Proud to lend an HELPING

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Proud to lend an HELPING -HAND!!!!

I am in ct and looking for

Anonymous's picture

I am in ct and looking for my sisters kaitlyn and nichole we were seperated 4 years ago,if anyone knows of them I am on facebook too under kathi demarco, please if anyone can help miss them and want to be in contact with them

Im 17 &&nd i was adddopted

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Im 17 &&nd i was adddopted when i was four years old, i got taken away and still remember it, but unlike some kids i was lucky enough to have my sister &nd two brothers with me but my two brothers got taken away thank god because after that my adoptive mom started beating me and my sister and her other adopted kids, mentaly and fisicaly, but im 17 now and have met my blood family not all yet but hopefully one day, and havent seen one of my brothers since i was 5 or so, just to let you people know being apart of this is not all rainbows &nd butterflys its one of the worst things that can happen to any kid!!!! Bera.

Hello all! I am a

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Hello all! I am a facilitator for an adoptee advisory committee, and I would really like to hear about your experiences with technology while in the foster care system - when did you begin to have regular access to computers/internet? Did you utilize social sites like this one for support? Any responses would be greatly appreciated!

If you're looking for

FC Steve's picture

If you're looking for multiple perspectives, you can post on the message board. Otherwise, you can comment here or send an e-mail to FosterClub and we'll do our best to answer it.

Where can I post a question

Anonymous's picture

Where can I post a question that is not about any of these questions?

dis is really sad

Anonymous's picture

dis is really sad

Anonymous, I don't think

Olivia's picture

Anonymous, I don't think there's an ideal amount of time. They should visit often (to make sure everything is ok) but most social workers are very busy. Do you need to speak to yours??
Click on "message board" and create a topic there. Many foster children and former foster kids can give you a better answer.

-1'

Anonymous's picture

-1'

how many times does a social

Anonymous's picture

how many times does a social worker visits a foster child?

Ashley, if you get mad at

Olivia's picture

Ashley, if you get mad at them often is because you either don't like their rules or they are just too protective or they are just plain annoying. Try to understand they are doing the best they can to care for you.

The man which the pain didn't educate will never stop being a child - Niccolo Tommaseo

WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU ALWAYS

aaashley's picture

WHAT HAPPENS IF YOU ALWAYS GET PIISSED OFF WIT YUR FOSTER PARENTS
too cool 4 you jk <3(:!lol

Hi Camille, I read your

Olivia's picture

Hi Camille, I read your post, you wrote on April 20th, did your situation get better? Please make a profile on fosterclub, that way people can reach faster to you. Write on the message board, maybe someone on your state can give you a tip.

The man which the pain didn't educate will never stop being a child - Niccolo Tommaseo

Have you tried facebook?

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Have you tried facebook?

Can someone please help me.

Anonymous's picture

Can someone please help me. I've been in foster care since I was 2 and haven't had contact with any of my real family. I've tried all I can to find out how to contact them but with no success and since I aged out of the system I no longer have a caseworker to talk to. Actually I haven't had a caseworker that I know of for several years. So I was wondering if there's some way I can find out about my real family other then through a caseworker

great question. Not sure how

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great question. Not sure how many responses you'll get from this location on the site, so I just posted it on the message board: https://www.fosterclub.com/forums/youth-message-board Stay tuned for responses

Hello, I work at the Muskie

Anonymous's picture

Hello, I work at the Muskie School in Maine and I am focused on youth in transition. My questions for anyone to respond is: Does cell phone use help those who are transitioning out of foster care stay connect with family and caregivers? How often do they communicate with biological and foster families? Is it useful to have a cell phone in order to stay connected to those the youth care about?

great question. In order to

FC Steve's picture

great question. In order to get more responses from our members, I suggest you post on the message board, https://www.fosterclub.com/forums/youth-message-board

I WANT TO KNOW ABOUT MY DAD

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I WANT TO KNOW ABOUT MY DAD BECAUSE HE WAS IN MY LIF JUST TILL I WAS 3 DOES ANY ONE HAVE ANY ADVICE FOR ME PLEASE WRITE IF YOU D0 THANK YOU SO MUCH

too cool 4 you jk <3(:!lol

foster care can destroy

Irondoor's picture

foster care can destroy siblings ties. I'm sorry that you had to move 40times in 8 years.

try joining an adoptee

Anonymous's picture

try joining an adoptee committee... you will see that it helps a lot.

I HAVE BEEN IN FOSTER CARE

Anonymous's picture

I HAVE BEEN IN FOSTER CARE SINCE I WAS SIX AND KNOW I AM 14 AND I HAVE BEEN TO 40 FOSTER HOMES AND MY LIFE HAS BEEN VERY TROUBLED BECAUSE OF MY BEHAVIORS

OPEN MINDE TO LISTING WHEN

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OPEN MINDE TO LISTING WHEN ADRESS QUESTION

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