Past experiences such as abandonment, abuse and poor adult role modeling often contribute to confusion about relationships.
"When you are abandoned, neglected and abused by your biological parents, its pretty tough to trust again. If my mom and dad can’t love me and take care of me why would a complete stranger?” - former foster youth
These past experience can spill into our current and future romantic relationships. Getting over the hurt and abandonment is tough and it can be a life long struggle. “I am still struggling with hurt and pain that happened almost 20 years ago says one former foster youth.” If we do not feel loved we seek out opportunities to create love; sometimes these are healthy choices and sometimes these are risky choices.
Although we cannot control the past and some current events are really out of control we can do our best to move on and over come these obstacles in our life. It isn’t easy but if we want to lead successful and bright futures it is important to seek out positive opportunities and make positive choices that will guide us to a better future.
“Finding a healthy relationship can be hard but not impossible” writes one former foster youth. “I did not want to settle for just for anybody because I was needing to be loved, I wanted someone who would loved me, who would care for me, and be there for me no matter what. I can proudly say she was worth the wait. I found the best person to spend the rest of my life with”