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Course Summary

For youth in care, placement in care often brings complicated feelings of shame, relief, or guilt. In order to effectively serve and provide for young people, we need to help them recognize their grief and meet them where they are in their grieving process. Gain knowledge and tools to help your child cope with feelings of grief and ambiguous loss through this course.

In this course, you can expect to learn:

  • About ambiguous loss and complicated grief
  • Unique challenges foster youth face through the grieving process
  • Understand how grief and trauma can manifest in a young person's behavior
  • Strategies a young person can use to cope with ambiguous loss and/or grief

Step 1

Watch the following video "Best Practices for Grief: Foster Care Placement," this video is a part of a series examining grief and loss experiences of children and teens, and was selected because of the valuable introduction it provides about young peoples' grief in foster care:

Step 2

The effects of grief that children in foster care experience vary by the developmental age of the child. Review the following article published by Fostering Perspectives, "The Effects of Grief and Loss on Children in Foster Care", to learn what grief signs to be aware of for all children.

Step 3

Review the following article "Ambiguous Loss Haunts Foster and Adopted Children", to learn about the inevitable loss a young person experiences during their foster care experience (sometimes over and over again) and how incredibly difficult this type of grief is to process.

Step 4

Gregory Manning discusses the difference between a traditional and non-traditional loss and how the profound loss and trauma a young person in foster care experiences manifests and impacts their behaviors in the following video "Grief and Loss for Youth in Foster Care & Adoption":

Step 5

Watch Matthew's video which reflects the trauma, grief, and loss he dealt with throughout his foster care experience. 

Step 6

Review "What Young People Can Do: Healing From Loss", a simple form to help guide and validate a young person healing from loss.

Step 7

Share the "Bill of Rights for Grieving Youth in Foster Care" tool with your child. These Rights reflect the values, dreams, and aspirations of current and former foster youth suffering from tremendous loss and can be helpful to a grieving young person and/or a young person who has not yet begun the grieving process.

Step 8

Join the discussion in the comments below to answer the following question:

How can you help young people in your care suffering from grief and loss?

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Course Discussion

josehunter's picture

josehunter said:

Sometimes we forget that they have lost their "normal," no matter what they go through it is a part of their life. We must help them by being there for them as a pair of ears to listen, so that they can have a voice in all of this. The trauma they have experienced is their's to bear and we can help but only when they allow us in.
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Janieb814 said:

You can help children experiencing grief/loss by just being there. Listen to what they have to say when they are willing to talk but don't pry for information. Let them know that what they are feeling is normal and okay to feel. Be patient and empathetic as they work through their grief.
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joenangel said:

With the kids we have now they have been through a lot. I don't ever ask them questions they just start talking and I just listen.
Joenangel14's picture

Joenangel14 said:

Let them know you are there if they need you. Always be supportive and listen.
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RDHogue said:

Be supportive, listen to them, and reassure them.
nightsend78's picture

nightsend78 said:

Reassure them that they have every right to their feelings. And offer ways and support fort hem to process that grief.
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smjenerette said:

let them talk about and express their loss when they want to and not try to fix it just listen and love them.
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LindsayMeyer said:

I can validate feelings and be there to listen and support them as they go through the stages of grief.
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Lisamarie Guidry said:

Be supportive and understanding and give them all the time that they need to grieve>
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ktrickel said:

I can help young people with their grief and loss by being there for them, showing them that it is okay to grieve, by being someone they can talk to about how they're feeling, helping them stay in touch with those who mean the most to them, getting them help if they need it, and just genuinely showing them that they are cared for and safe.