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Course Summary

The necessary removal of children from their caregiver(s) to whom they are attached, can have both positive and negative aspects. From a child protection perspective, separation has several benefits, the most obvious being the immediate safety of the child. Separating a parent and child can also have profoundly negative effects. Even when it is necessary, research indicates that removing children from their homes interferes with their development. The more traumatic the separation, the more likely there will be significant negative developmental consequences. It is imperative that foster parents and other child welfare stakeholders be informed about how separation and loss impacts the children they care for and how to help minimize the impact.

In this course, you can expect to learn:

  • what separation and loss may look like for a child when losing their caregiver, siblings or other close relatives

  • challenges children may face when suffering from a traumatic separation, both in general and developmentally

  • how an adult supporter may be able to help a child experiencing separation and loss

  • strategies and tools available to assist and help a young person develop coping skills

Step 1

Review the following article,  "Children with Traumatic Separation: Information for Professionals," an issue developed by the National Child Traumatic Stress Network, which provides information and guidance to young people who experience traumatic separation from a caregiver, siblings or other close relatives.

Step 2

Review the following article, "Effects of Separation and Loss on Children's Development," by Susan Hois, to gain insight on the psychological impact of losing parents due to divorce, incarceration, death and/or removal to foster care at various stages of development.

Step 3

Review the excerpt, "My Stuff," from FosterClub's Quick Start Guide, for teens entering foster care. Often, what is unknown is the scariest part of foster care. Providing young people with a method of control helps eliminate unknown factors and make them feel more comfortable in their current situation.

Step 4

Review the information provided in "Keeping Connected to Siblings," excerpted from FosterClub's Quick Start Guide, which outlines important things for a young person to consider when thinking about bio-family connections. Relationships with family can be tough for any teen. But when foster care is involved, things can get even more complicated; this effects the impact of the separation from loved ones. Helping a young person understand the details and their rights concerning visits or connections to loved ones may help ease the fear and anxiety that separation often creates. 

Step 5

Review the following worksheet developed by FosterClub to help children gain a better understanding of what separation from their family members looks like and ideas about how to keep in touch with important people, excerpted from FosterClub's Foster Cub Coloring Book. Having a conversation with the younger youth in your care may prove to be a little more complicated than a conversation with a teen.

Step 6

Review the following worksheet, "What will we do on a visit?" An excerpt from FosterClub's Foster Cub Coloring Book. Easing the uncertainty for children in your care when it comes to visits with biological family is important. Beyond initial greetings, family visits can become awkward for the child and visitor alike. Plan ahead with the child about things they can do at their visit, and help pack a bag with items that promote interactivity and connection.

Step 7

Review the worksheet below, "What will my family be doing in foster care?" Often the anxiety that evolves from separation is the lack of knowledge regarding what the rest of the young person's family will be doing in foster care. Help begin a conversation about what family members may be up to during the young person's absence from the home. This could also be used during visitation with family members. Excerpted from FosterClub's Foster Cub Coloring Book.

Step 8

Join the discussion in the comments below to answer the following question:

How could you help minimize the impact of separation on a young person in your home when visits and/or communication with bio family is not an option?

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Course Discussion

AlbaughM's picture

AlbaughM said:

You can help minimize the impact of separation on a young person in your home when visits and/or communication with bio family is not an option by being open and honest with them about why the visitation and/or communication stopped. With this, you need to be compassionate and explain it is not their fault.
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Hgomez1982 said:

creating a scrapbook which includes their birth family names and pictures and information and pictures of what they experience while they are seperated. If they are older, a journal can also be helpful.
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ddwalters said:

A frank and honest discussion, and a willingness to answer (and continue to answer) they "Why?" question for years to come, keeping in mind age-appropriateness. I would also seek out counseling and support geared towards resolution and closure, should that be something I feel is warranted.
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deleon521979 said:

It's important to use words and language that is appropriate for the child. Be honest, comforting and open when discussing.
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dmkiser75 said:

I let them know it's okay if they are nervous or scared. I try to have an open discussion with them so they feel comfortable talking about their feelings.
jkatkinson's picture

jkatkinson said:

We explain everything with the children in our home & seek guidance from both caseworker and counselor to help us understand/know so we can relay the information to the children.
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rlatkinson said:

The best approach we could use is to be open & honest in age-specific language.
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jdupuis8120 said:

be honest about the details of the separation using strategic sharing. encouraging keeping or letting go of toys/clothes as the feel the need to attach or let go.
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mourant60 said:

How can i see my certificate i just took my test
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Johnrex2018 said:

In order to help minimize the impact of a child in my home (typically ages 11-13) when they don't have contact with their bio-family, I would take a couple of different approaches. First, I would keep them up to date with any information I received as well as make sure they are aware of what the next steps look like for their case. I feel having open communication regarding their bio-family would be beneficial. Another thing that I would do is to ask them if they wanted to hang any pictures of their bio-family around the house. Furthermore, I would regularly check in with them on how they are feeling about their life and situation.