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Course Summary

Placement in care often brings complicated feelings of shame, relief, or guilt for children and youth. In order to effectively serve and provide for their needs, we need to help children and youth recognize their grief and meet them where they are in their grieving process. Through this module, you will gain knowledge and tools to help children and youth cope with feelings of grief and ambiguous loss.

In this course, you can expect to learn:

  • Information about ambiguous loss and complicated grief
  • Unique challenges children and youth in care may face through the grieving process
  • The ways grief and trauma can manifest in a child or youth's behaviors
  • Strategies children and youth can use to cope with ambiguous loss and/or grief

Step 1

Watch the following video "Best Practices for Grief: Foster Care Placement." This video is a part of a series examining grief and loss experiences of children and teens, and was selected because of its valuable introduction to the grief children and youth may experience due to being part of the foster care system. 

Step 2

The effects of grief that children and youth in foster care experience vary based on their developmental age. Review the following article published by Fostering Perspectives, "The Effects of Grief and Loss on Children in Foster Care" to learn what grief signs to be aware of for all children and youth.

Step 3

Review the following article "Ambiguous Loss Haunts Foster and Adopted Children" to learn about the inevitable loss a child or youth experiences during their foster care (sometimes repeatedly) and how incredibly difficult this type of grief is to process.

Step 4

Gregory Manning discusses the difference between a traditional and non-traditional loss and how the profound loss and trauma a child or young person in foster care may experience manifests and impacts their behaviors in the following video "Grief and Loss for Youth in Foster Care & Adoption."

Step 5

Watch Matthew's video which reflects the trauma, grief, and loss he dealt with throughout his foster care experience. 

Step 6

Review "What Young People Can Do: Healing From Loss," a simple form to help guide and validate a young person healing from loss.

Step 7

Share the "Bill of Rights for Grieving Youth in Foster Care" tool with your child. These rights reflect the values, dreams, and aspirations of current and former foster youth suffering from tremendous loss and can be helpful to a grieving young person and/or a young person who has not yet begun the grieving process.

Step 8

Join the discussion in the comments below to answer the following question:

How can you help young people in your care suffering from grief and loss?

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Course Discussion

LJR's picture

LJR said:

Be present, be compassionate, allow them to express grief, and listen in love. Also, provide additional help and support if needed.
mojojoseph6's picture

mojojoseph6 said:

be there for them and let them know that no feeling or emotion they have is wrong.
robin_a_willson's picture

robin_a_willson said:

I can help young people by encouraging an open discussion of their feelings and offering support for their grief process.
josehunter's picture

josehunter said:

Sometimes we forget that they have lost their "normal," no matter what they go through it is a part of their life. We must help them by being there for them as a pair of ears to listen, so that they can have a voice in all of this. The trauma they have experienced is their's to bear and we can help but only when they allow us in.
Janieb814's picture

Janieb814 said:

You can help children experiencing grief/loss by just being there. Listen to what they have to say when they are willing to talk but don't pry for information. Let them know that what they are feeling is normal and okay to feel. Be patient and empathetic as they work through their grief.
joenangel's picture

joenangel said:

With the kids we have now they have been through a lot. I don't ever ask them questions they just start talking and I just listen.
Joenangel14's picture

Joenangel14 said:

Let them know you are there if they need you. Always be supportive and listen.
RDHogue's picture

RDHogue said:

Be supportive, listen to them, and reassure them.
nightsend78's picture

nightsend78 said:

Reassure them that they have every right to their feelings. And offer ways and support fort hem to process that grief.
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smjenerette said:

let them talk about and express their loss when they want to and not try to fix it just listen and love them.