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LBGTQ

ahoke21474's picture

Took this course twice and learned a great deal of info.

LBGTQ

ahoke21474's picture

Took this course twice and learned a great deal of info.

LGBTQ

vmburk's picture

Just being open and accepting opens the door for honest discussions!

accepting

mariaguilen1011's picture

just accepting someone as they are will make the difference

LGBTQ

josegonzalez1011's picture

Being known as a part of LGBTQ does not change the fact that they are human beings that are going through neglect, and our responsibility as foster parents is to accept and engage in their decisions. Everyone should be accepted for who they are, not by what they identify themselves as; everyone and anyone should be accepted.

I believe everyone is

kjerideau's picture

I believe everyone is different/ unique my mother raised us to understand that, and that is how I teach my kids. Children who come into my home I allow them to be themselves, and accept them like I would my own child.

LBGTQ

bwittsrn's picture

We are open and accepting of anyone able to give love to all

LBGTQ

bwittsrn's picture

We are open and accepting of anyone able to give love to all

Simple Adjustments

Tricia's picture

Some books about LGBTQ youth and issues put on our bookshelves in the family room would show that my home is a safe place to discuss their issues. By having books out in the open I would be showing them that they can be open and be themselves in my home. Having the books out would also give all kids and adults the chance to learn about LGBTQ issues on their own terms and in their own time.

accepting who they are

Sonnenpack's picture

Having open communication and accept who they are is the way to make them feel accepted

accepting who they are

Sonnenpack's picture

Having open communication and accept who they are is the way to make them feel accepted

Loving acceptance of identity and choices

evehgordon's picture

We will continue to let our kids know that love, care, respect, and honest communication are the most important aspects of healthy intimate relationships. We know that it doesn't matter what the genders in the relationship are. We are a lesbian couple, and our foster daughter arrived into our family with lots of homophobic ideas. Now that she knows many gay men and lesbian women, she knows that it is nothing to be afraid of or ashamed of. She knows that we will love and support her the same ways regardless of whether she dates and chooses to love men or women in the future.

Affirmation of Identity

Heidiliz77's picture

Definitely having open, non judgmental conversations, and really taking the time to hear them out and not dismissing their concerns.

Identity

scott1510's picture

We believe that open communicate and non judgmental ways has worked the best for us.

An inspiration

MoniqueBRoth's picture

I was very touched by the stories that I read about the LGBTQ youth in FosterCare. The amount of strength and resilience that they had to endure the additional abuse that they received at the hands foster care system was inspiring. I hope
foster parents who read their stories have the knowledge to not fall into the same tragic mistakes of judgement and ridicule of LGBTQ youth in their home.

Home

beverly40's picture

Open communication is the best thing in the world.

Affirmation

renaeor's picture

I think an open, friendly attitude and willingness to listen is a great first step.

Affirmation

renaeor's picture

I think an open, friendly attitude and willingness to listen is a great first step.

Our home and friends

DawnR's picture

We have friends who are gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender. Kids, regardless of their sexual orientation or identity, will see that those who identify as LGTBQ are simply part of the fabric of our every day lives.

Walk the walk AND Talk the talk

SMaloney's picture

You have to walk the walk and talk the talk.
Open communication is the key however analyzing our own comments and actions toward others speak volumes to those around us.

Affirming and Supportive

gree2250's picture

Let them know they can talk to you about anything, and show affirmation for who they are. The best way to do this is by being supportive of how they choose to express themselves.

Open

scohorn's picture

Being open in communication and truly listening to them. <3

Being open and accepting

drea1014's picture

Having open discussions whenever possible, attending a variety of events to expose them to different people as well as being a ear when they need someone to talk to.

Being open and accepting

drea1014's picture

Having open discussions whenever possible, attending a variety of events to expose them to different people as well as being a ear when they need someone to talk to.

Communication is the key

rsantiago1212's picture

I believe communication is the key. No matter what beliefs a foster parent may have our priority is to provide a safe and loving environment where these kids can communicate what they are going through.

Identity

Chafinclan's picture

Not to be so judgemental and listen instead of hearin.

honesty

linneacnord's picture

I think honesty and open communication helps for understanding those who may feel differently than we do. I know for me, LGBTQ is not something that I have personal experience with. I live in a small community where we didn't talk or learn about such things and I was probably in high school before I knew the word gay was for more than someone being happy! As naive as that sounds, it is the truth. So for me, I guess I would be learning a lot with a LGBTQ placement in my home as far as community support. Honestly stating I'm not sure where you can go for help/counseling/support groups but being willing to seek out those resources for a child and for myself to gain better understanding is what I think matters.

Have an open mind

Desiree9157's picture

Have an open mind, be encouraging, let them know that you are there for them and make them feel comfortable and know that they can come to you with any questions or concerns.

Have an open mind

Desiree9157's picture

Have an open mind, be encouraging, let them know that you are there for them and make them feel comfortable and know that they can come to you with any questions or concerns.

Open Communication

cmlee's picture

Open Communication

Accepting

dewbabyt's picture

I think accepting an individual for who they are requires acceptance on every level. Open communication and allowing them to be themselves all the way around

Accepting

dewbabyt's picture

I think accepting an individual for who they are requires acceptance on every level. It infuriates me when I hear of the horror stories these children go through while in the system, let alone as they grow up in the world as it is today. They struggle enough within to be ridiculed for who they are. Imagine what they go through alone, let alone all the baggage everyone else dumps on them! In one of the training classes I attended I listened to a foster parent say if she was to get one of these children she would have to teach them how to be normal!! That was it....I unloaded on her and everyone else in that class! If you can't be accepting then don't accept them into your home from the get go.

Keep it open

jkreid60's picture

We have a very open minded home and we encourage others to have the same open mind. This allows all of us to communicate better and be more connected and open to any situation

Keep it open

jkreid60's picture

We have a very open minded home and we encourage others to have the same open mind. This allows all of us to communicate better and be more connected and open to any situation

open mind

Melgoza626's picture

when we have children who are different form others it is our job to make sure they embrace who they are and feel no matter what they like or what they feel ,they should feel supported by their loved ones.

Welcome to my home!

Noodles's picture

Welcome everything that they have to say. encourage their thoughts and beliefs

Accepting

Cherokee48's picture

By having love, patience and understanding of others is the 1st step of raising an exceptional and diverse child.

Adjustment

hernandez685's picture

I think a big adjustment in my home would be not talking about what "we believe". And to be careful extended family didn't make a youth feel uncomfortable due to beliefs about LGBTQ.

Affirmation of their identity

markishagrayson's picture

I believe having an opened mind and accepting the information that is giving.