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There is More to Life to ProveThere have been countless times where I was told I could or could not do something due to my status as a foster youth. I was not one to have low expectations and standards of myself but others have had that intention. There have been certain things such as my test scores that would determine if I wanted to go into the military (Armed Services Vocational Aptitude Battery or ASVAB) or the Scholastic Aptitude Test (SAT) for college did not meet the expectations of foster parents. I had been told I was not good enough for a private college or university and should go for something else. I was told I was only good enough to become a Guidance Counselor. (Not that there is anything wrong with it). Even in high school, though I was never able to play varsity sports due to a variety of reasons, I was told I deserved to sit on the bench because I had never played before.      

It was very hard to not have much support in the things I tried to do to achieve normalcy. The adults in my life may have tried to have good intentions but they did not challenge me or helped me expand horizons. I felt they did not want to raise me up to be the best I could be. I was thankful to have a counselors to help me see past this because for the longest time I felt this was a battle that could not be won. 

The role that expectations played in how I set goals is that the expectations others had of me made me angry at times. I wanted to be more than what was expected. I have always wanted to surpass my goals whenever I do something. But also want my goals to be more than ever could imagine. It’s a shocking realization sometimes to see how much you have grown once things have changed in your life.   

I feel as if the stigma of foster care affects others’ perceptions on how they should treat foster youth. There is stigma for foster youth because of the negative consequences that brought them into care. Many may think that youth will be just like the circumstances that brought them into care, and that is not true. Everyday, foster youth challenge these perceptions with perseverance and resilience that cannot be beat.

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There Is More To Life To Prove

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The opinions expressed by the blog author and those providing comments are theirs alone, and do not reflect the opinions of the FosterClub or any employee thereof. FosterClub is not responsible for the accuracy of any of the information supplied by the blogger.