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Okay so I have a very good friend who has an abusive parent, and she wants to get out of her house, I was wondering who she should tell? Her mom is only abusive to her, verbally and physically, she calls her the "screw-up" of the family and yells at her constantly, and her whole family is basically the same. How can she get out of her house with the least trouble? She doesn't have any physical proof,like bodily harm at the moment, but another friend of ours and I have met her mother and seen her yell at our friend. Will this be enough to get her out of there? Or does she need more proof? I need some answers, if anyone could help...
posted Jan 28th
hey
Psychological abuse is very difficult to prove. Your friend could begin by getting involved with school based counseling if available. Chances are if things are so hard at home, she may qualify if this is reflecting itself at school in some manner (bad grades, being picked on by other students, etc.). This is a slow method but after some time of being honest about her feelings with a counselor, she will feel better and gain coping skills to deal with some of the abuse. In addition, if the counselor hears something they find particularly troubling, they will make a report to the authorities. This may make things harder in the short run, but a few of these reports and you have built a case. If the parent tries to get her out of counseling or move after the first or second report made, it will alert the authorities to potential abuse.
Another possible method of building a case is to use an MP3 player to record this parent in context. Even a small 1 GB player can record for a long period of time. Download individual remarks to a computer or jump drive with date and time as the file name. Enough of these and any policeman or counselor will fight to get your friend in a safer environment. In the meantime continue to be supportive and don't encurage your friend to run or otherwise act out...that makes HER into the criminal.
"There is always another chance for you. You may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call 'failure' is not the falling down, but the staying down. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power."
Mary Pickford
honestly verbal abuse wont get her any where and the moment the physical abuse happens she should call the police right away and let them know what happened and the police will put it on file and they will let her know whether its bad enough for her to be put into CPS
I'm so sorry that you're friend is going through this. I think encouraging your friend to call a domestic hotline would be a good idea. Here's a child abuse #:
1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453)
Here's a domestic abuse #:
1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233)
Here's a link to some other hotline numbers:
http://www.essortment.com/articles/hotline_100016.htm
good luck!
I think the best way to play it is talk to a teacher or a counselor like teenbrat said and go from there. I'm sure there will be some sort of case worker sent out and then she can hopeful be removed from that situation. Good Luck.
well theres always a way to get around things but as far as the whole proof thing goes it depends on what you state calls abuses and what you need to get her out of there um if i was her friend i would ahve her stay at my house or a friends house in genral just pack the stuff she needs a not noticable bag and have her stay at a friends for a while and have her talk to a teacher,coucler at school, a school resource officer, umm a hot line. or dial 911 if you think her life is in danger or if shes in danger ingenral base it off what you think im sorry i dont have any numbers to give but i hope this helps
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